Sex, Kink & BDSM Coaching for Men
Alongside my work as a therapist, I offer a dedicated space for sex, kink, and BDSM coaching and guidance for men. Whether you're an individual or part of a couple, these sessions provide a structured and supportive environment to explore your sexual journey. My approach focuses on education, practical strategies, and personal growth, offering actionable steps to help you gain confidence and clarity—without delving into deeper emotional or psychological concerns.
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My coaching sessions provide a structured, goal-oriented approach designed to help you gain clarity, build confidence, and explore or enhance your sexual or kink journey. I use the Wheel of Life for Intimacy and Sex model to guide our work, ensuring that we take a holistic look at all key areas of your sexual well-being and relational life. Coaching typically involves 7-10 sessions and can focus on:
Key Areas We May Explore:
Gaining Clarity – Understanding your sexual identity, fantasies, and desires using self-reflection and goal-setting exercises.
Improving Communication – Learning how to express your needs, boundaries, and desires clearly and confidently.
Exploring Dynamics – Navigating roles, power dynamics, and boundaries in relationships, including those involving kink and BDSM.
Overcoming Barriers – Identifying and addressing emotional blocks such as shame, fear, or insecurity to build greater intimacy and self-empowerment.
Enhancing Connection and Pleasure – Discovering creative, playful ways to deepen intimacy and experience joy and pleasure in your sexual experiences.
The Wheel of Life model helps us identify which of these areas you feel most fulfilled in and where you may want to focus your efforts for growth and balance. Together, we reflect on and set goals to empower you on your journey.
Who This Is For:
These sessions are designed for:
Individuals or couples who are new to exploring their sexual identity or interests.
Those in relationships who want to deepen intimacy, communication, and connection.
Anyone curious about fantasies, kink, or BDSM dynamics and looking for a safe, empowering environment to explore.
This process offers a safe, non-judgmental space to embrace and develop your sexual self while building long-term intimacy and relational well-being.
Whether you’re new to this journey or looking to strengthen existing dynamics, my approach—guided by the Wheel of Life for Intimacy and Sex—is designed to provide you with insight, tools, and strategies for lasting growth.
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In an advice session, I provide a safe and open space to answer your specific questions or concerns about sex, intimacy, and relationships. These sessions are ideal if you’re seeking guidance on a one-off basis without the need for a structured coaching package.
This service is designed to offer practical advice and clarity on a range of topics, helping you move forward with greater understanding and confidence.
What’s Included:
Flexible shorter sessions based on your immediate needs, which could include:
Discussing a specific issue or challenge
Clarifying questions about sexual identity, fantasies, or dynamics
Understanding boundaries, roles, or relationship agreements
Exploring new ideas, desires, or curiosities
Personalised recommendations: Tools, resources, or strategies tailored to your situation
Who This Is For:
Individuals or couples with occasional questions about sex and intimacy
Those who want quick guidance without committing to ongoing coaching
Anyone looking to explore fantasies, kink, or BDSM dynamics in a single session
*Please contact me separately for this.
What is the difference between coaching sessions and advice sessions?
The Intimacy and Sex Wellness Wheel -
My Philosophy and Model
I believe that sexual and relational wellness is about more than just physical experiences—it’s about self-awareness, confidence, vulnerability, and alignment with your desires, boundaries, and connections. When one area—whether it’s communication, self-image, or intimacy—feels misaligned, it can impact overall satisfaction and connection.
To help navigate this, I have created my own Intimacy and Sex Wellness Wheel, a tool designed to provide a holistic view of your sexual and relational life. It helps you reflect on key areas, identify where you feel fulfilled, and see where you may want to grow. By exploring these connections, we can work together to strengthen relationships, deepen intimacy, and create a more fulfilling and authentic sexual self.
Key Areas of the Wheel of Life
Intimacy & Connection – The ability to build emotional closeness, trust, and meaningful relationships.
Shame & Sexual Empowerment – The ability to overcome shame and embrace confidence in your sexual identity.
Communication – The ability to express desires, boundaries, and needs openly and confidently.
Boundaries & Consent – The ability to set and maintain clear, respectful boundaries in intimate relationships.
Sexual Identity & Expression – The ability to understand, embrace, and confidently express your sexual self.
Self-Image, Body Confidence & Physical Well-Being – The ability to feel comfortable in your body and recognise how physical health supports sexual confidence.
Confidence – The ability to feel secure in your sexual self, trust your instincts, and engage in intimacy without fear or self-doubt.
Desire & Arousal – The ability to understand and maintain sexual desire in alignment with your needs.
Playfulness & Fantasy – The ability to explore desires, fantasies, and imagination to enhance pleasure and connection.
Emotional & Mental Well-Being in Sexuality – The ability to understand how emotions, past experiences, and mental health shape your sexual confidence and satisfaction.
How We Use the Model
Together, we explore these areas, building awareness and setting practical goals. Whether you want to navigate power dynamics, redefine intimacy, or embrace your sexual identity, this model serves as a guiding framework throughout our coaching journey.
This approach is adaptable to your needs and helps you achieve a deeper connection with your body, desires, and relationships, laying the foundation for ongoing growth and empowerment.
Mapping Your Wheel of Life
If you'd like to reflect on these areas, you can map out your own Intimacy and Sex Wellness Wheel using the interactive tool linked on this page.
Once you complete the assessment, the results will be sent to me. I will wait for you to reach out if you'd like to follow up—I will not contact you first. I understand that some individuals may simply want the visual map for their personal use.
If this is the case, I recommend taking a screenshot of your results before submitting them so you can refer back to them later.
Click here to begin your Intimacy and Sex Wellness Wheel assessment.
I'm here to support you whenever you're ready.