Working online in private practice in London, alongside a voluntary psychosexual therapist placement at 56 Dean Street.

Hello,  I’m Sergio. I am a psychotherapist working in private practice in London, offering online sessions. I also volunteer as a psychosexual therapist with the NHS at 56 Dean Street.

I have a big passion for helping clients explore sex, intimacy, and connection. I find it a true privilege to offer a safe, non-judgmental space where people can address specific challenges like mismatched desire, performance anxiety, compulsive sexual behaviour around the use of chems and financial domination, kink/BDSM, and other general sexual difficulties. I believe that by learning the language of our bodies, thoughts, and behaviours, everyone can build a more confident, connected, and fulfilling relationship with their own sexuality and with the ones around them.

Beyond this specialism, I also work with individuals dealing with depression, chronic low mood, and concerns around identity and existential meaning.

I work with a diverse range of individuals and couples, including people who are LGBTQIA+, heterosexual, non-binary, culturally diverse, neurodiverse, and those practicing non-monogamy or polyamory, as well as sex workers.

Given my core training is integrative, I draw on modalities that I have found consistently effective: Internal Family Systems (IFS) for processing deep memories and trauma; Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for practical tools and goal-setting; and Attachment theory and relational work (focusing on our connection) to reveal deeper relational patterns to create insight and lasting change.

Qualifications

Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology
Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy (In Training) 

The Awareness Centre
Diploma in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy

Regent’s University
Certificate in Counselling and Psychotherapy

Areas I am passionate about

  • Whilst I am currently only a student undertaking training, I have already worked with many individuals with concerns around low desire, intimacy difficulties, sexual function challenges, mismatched libidos, exploring sexual identity, and navigating sexual communication issues.

    This work is at the heart of what I am interested in.

  • Relationships can be difficult to navigate and can change according to the people we connect with. I like to help clients by offering support in a number of ways, including:

    • Navigating polyamory and open monogamy

    • Managing multi-partnered relationships and polycule dynamics

    • Addressing challenges in communication

    • Establishing and maintaining boundaries

    • Strengthening bonds within non-traditional relationships

  • A large part of my work has been working with clients who have questions or issues related to gender identity and sexual orientation, including:

    • Navigating the journey of coming out

    • Coping with discrimination

    • Exploring gender transition

    • Discussing aspects of sexual health

    • Addressing relationship dynamics

  • Chemsex can be devastating and destabilising. It can also creep up in one’s life without much warning.

    Having completed my training with the Controlling Chemsex charity, I apply a compassionate, non-judgmental, and harm-reduction focused approach to this struggle. We work together to gain clearer insight into your relationship with recreational drug use and sexual behaviour, and work to take control of your life.

  • I have worked with individuals who have been on either side of infidelity and have seen how confusing and debilitating such an experience can be.

    My practice offers a space for both those who have experienced infidelity and those who have been unfaithful, including:

    • Navigating the aftermath of betrayal for both parties

    • Rebuilding trust and repairing communication

    • Exploring underlying factors that contributed to the infidelity

    • Processing emotions such as guilt, anger, shame, or grief

    • Clarifying needs, boundaries, and steps for moving forward

  • This would be working with:

    • Understanding the drivers behind the behaviour

    • Managing intrusive thoughts and intense urges

    • Addressing feelings of shame, guilt, or anxiety

    • Rebuilding trust and addressing relationship dynamics

    • Developing healthier coping strategies and sexual expression

  • As an advocate and therapist specialising in LGBTQ+ issues, I provide support for:

    • Navigating the complexities of coming out

    • Managing relationships within personal and social contexts

    • Coping with discrimination and societal challenges

    • Exploring and affirming identity

    • Building resilience and fostering self-acceptance

  • As one of my core focuses, I provide an inclusive and non-judgmental space for clients to explore aspects of kink and BDSM. This could look like:

    • Navigating consent, communication, and safety

    • Exploring dom/sub dynamics and lifestyles

    • Addressing kink shame and stigma

    • Understanding and expressing sexual identities

    • Building confidence in kink practices

    I have also appeared on podcasts discussing kink, findom, kink shame, and dom/sub dynamics, bringing informed and open perspectives to these topics.

  • Through my own experience as a sex worker, I bring an experienced perspective to individuals and the ones surrounding them.

    Some areas of focus can be:

    • Navigating stigma

    • Managing boundaries

    • Dealing with occupational stress

    • Seeking support for personal relationships

    • Navigating professional relationships

  • Drawing from my own lived experience of depression, I hold the work of addressing depression and suicidal ideation with incredible importance and deep care. These struggles profoundly shape a person’s life, and I am committed to providing a deeply supportive, compassionate, and non-judgmental space to explore and understand their roots.

    My ultimate goal is to develop hope and empower clients to envision and create a life that feels worth living.

  • I like to help clients explore and understand core aspects of their self-concept, including:

    • Understand cultural identity challenges

    • Exploring gender identity

    • Understanding sexual identity

    • Resolving personal identity conflicts

    • Examining the impact of past experiences and societal pressures

  • I like to work with clients to understand what makes them feel anxious and find ways to live more peacefully. The goal is to discover what helps you feel calmer and more confident. This might include looking at your thought patterns in a new light, learning simple exercises to stay present, or using breathing techniques to find relief when you feel overwhelmed.

  • To ensure I can provide dedicated and high-quality care, I reserve a limited number of spaces for in-depth trauma work. As these spaces are currently full, I am not taking on new clients specifically for this purpose at this time.

    I do, however, warmly welcome clients with a history of trauma who wish to work on other life challenges. If deep trauma work is your primary goal, I am happy to discuss your needs and provide referrals to trusted colleagues.

  • Intrusive thoughts can be frightening and debilitating. In my experience, I have come to understand them as messengers trying to tell us something about our circumstances. Although treatment will include exposure, compassion and acceptance, understanding the conditions that create them will be beneficial too.

  • We work together to understand the roots of your anger and develop healthier ways to express and manage such feelings. We can work on identifying triggers, improving emotional regulation, and developing effective communication skills.

  • I support clients through the grieving process, helping them to navigate their emotions and find ways to cope with the loss of a loved one. This involves providing a compassionate space for clients to express their feelings and explore the impact of their loss on their lives.

  • I am dedicated to supporting individuals who identify as neurodivergent. Whether dealing with ADHD, autism spectrum conditions, dyslexia, or other neurodivergent traits, my practice strives to provide a thoughtful and accommodating environment.

  • With over 12 years of teaching experience, I understand the challenges educators face. In my therapy sessions, I offer a supportive space for teachers dealing with burnout, stress, classroom demands, administrative pressures, or struggles with work-life balance.

    Using my background in education, I offer a relatable experience from a person who has been through it before.

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